Finding your tribe

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Being a writer can be a lonely existence at times, especially if it’s your full-time job, so this month I thought I’d give you some tips on finding your tribe – those like-minded individuals who share your love of writing and will celebrate and commiserate with you, whatever the writing milestone.

Whilst many writers are introverts, needing time alone to recharge their batteries, there are also many extroverted writers out there who need social interaction to refill their cups, so I’ve included some suggestions that will appeal to both types.

Not sure whether you’re an introvert, extrovert or ambivert? Take the Myers-Briggs test and find out!

Blogging and blog hops

First things first, blog hops are excellent for getting to know other writers and bloggers! Not only do they help you build a list of brilliant blogs to follow, they encourage you to interact with as many of your fellow bloggers as possible, building a real sense of community. You’ll make internet friends that might even become IRL friends! And you’ll learn a lot in the process, so you can’t really lose.

Suitable for both introverts and extroverts, as there’s a lot of interaction involved but it’s all from the safety of behind your computer screen, plus you can pick and choose when and who you interact with.

Social media

The main places you’ll find a big writing community are Twitter and Instagram, and there are about a million hashtags that you can start by searching, e.g. #amwriting and #writerlife. You can also find most of your fellow bloggers’ social accounts listed on their blogs, so you’ve got a ready made list of people to follow and connect with right there.

There are loads of Twitter chats you could join in on, some generic and some specific to genre or demographic, e.g. #storysocial, #storycrafter, #RWchat for romance writers or #FemalesInFantasy for women SFF writers.

Again, there’s no pressure for introverts on social media – getting overwhelmed? Log off for a few hours. Don’t enjoy a particular chat? You don’t have to join in next week. Share as much or as little as you feel comfortable with, and don’t forget the gifs!

Writer groups

This one’s for the extroverted writers out there. If you’re happy to read your work out loud in front of a room of relative strangers and receive criticism to your face, then writer groups could be for you. You can search online for your nearest group, or head down to your local library where many writer groups meet, or post flyers on the notice board. Most groups invite published authors to speak about their work, their writing process and publishing journey, so you’ll learn something as well as getting valuable feedback from your fellow writers.

In my experience (from that one time I attended a group… #introvertsunite), there’s often a weekly (or monthly, depending on the group) theme on which you’re expected to write a piece, so it’s not all about your passion project, but that in itself can be a great way to broaden your range and practice using different styles. Plus, you’ll be meeting writers who live near you, so if you become firm friends with someone you could even ditch the group and start your own little writers meetup at your favourite coffee shop!


National Novel Writing Month is a fantastic way to connect with other writers, and there’s a good mix of activities to suit both introverts and extroverts. You can register on the website and track your writing progress, adding your writing buddies from social media and the real world. You can join your regional group and chat with local writers in the forum, sharing tips and advice. You can even attend write-ins and meet your regional group in person, if being surrounded by other writers tapping away at their keyboards gets your creative juices flowing.

If you’ve never heard of NaNoWriMo (have you been living under a rock?) it’s a month long challenge that takes place every November, where writers aim to clock up 50,000 words in 30 days. There’s also Camp Nano every April and July, when you get to choose your own target, whether it’s a word count, page count, or hours spent writing. You can join a “cabin” with other fellow writers, making it an even more interactive experience. And now you can use the Nano website to track your writing goals all year round!

Pitch competitions

If you’ve been around here for a while, you might know I entered Pitch Wars back in 2017 with my manuscript The Fair Queen. I didn’t get in, but that almost didn’t even matter, because I discovered a community of writers at a similar point on their publishing journeys who share their experiences and advice, boost each other up when they get knocked down, and celebrate each other’s wins on a daily basis. There’s such a sense of kinship and friendly support when you take part in pitch competitions – despite the fact you’re all competing, there’s no bad blood whatsoever. Everyone cheers everyone else on, there’s room for all of our books out there in the world, after all!

There are lots of pitch competitions on Twitter throughout the year, Pitch Wars even has their own pitch party on Twitter for those who didn’t get into the main mentoring competition, called #PitMad. iWriterly has compiled them into a handy calendar so you can plan your entire year around pitch competitions!

Getting into the competition is honestly just a bonus – OK, OK it’s a bit more than a bonus – but the greatest thing about these competitions is, you guessed it, the community! Take the opportunity to find some beta readers and critique partners, and build a support network of like-minded writer types who’ll be there for you on every step of your journey to publication.

I hope these tips help you to find your tribe like I have, I really recommend taking advantage of some of these brilliant opportunities to meet other writers and start building your own writer community.

Do you have any other suggestions for great places to make writer friends?



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  1. ailynk says:

    i am doing nano this yaeer I hope

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    1. lyndleloo says:

      I’m hoping to take part this year too! I don’t expect to win but hopefully I’ll get a good few thousand words in during the baby’s naps πŸ™‚


  2. Louise@DragonspireUK says:

    I love social media but I’ve been out of touch lately. I’m going to check out some of the Twitter chats you mentioned, especially #FemalesInFantasy!

    Online courses can be a great way to meet other writers. I’ve started my MA in Creative Writing this week (by distance learning, so introvert perfect :D) and I’ve already had fun chatting with some of the others on the course.

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    1. lyndleloo says:

      Twitter chats can be brilliant, I particularly love #StoryCrafter, hosted by Faye Kirwin. I’d love to do a course in creative writing one day, good luck with it!

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      1. Louise@DragonspireUK says:

        Thanks, it’s looking to be a fun course so far πŸ™‚
        I’ve been meaning to try #StoryCrafter, once I get back into being on Twitter more regularly.

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  3. M.L. Keller says:

    These are great tips. Writing can definitely feel like living in isolation. Even when you have plenty of real world contacts, most don’t get writer problems. Thanks for sharing

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    1. lyndleloo says:

      It’s so true non-writers don’t tend to get writer problems at all, we definitely need to have a network of fellow writers to share our experiences with, good and bad! And gifs, always gifs πŸ™‚

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  4. emaginette says:

    Funny I don’t think of myself as an extrovert but I’m rather comfortable with my face-to-face writing group. It may be the people that put me at ease. I certainly don’t have to read aloud to participate and that may be part of it too. Knowing we are all there to help each other is pretty awesome. πŸ™‚

    Anna from elements of emaginette

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    1. lyndleloo says:

      That’s great that you’re writing group are so supportive and non-threatening (lol!), everyone was lovely at the group I visited too, and I probably would have gone back if we hadn’t moved house. I did enjoy the talk as well, it was a local MG fantasy writer, so that was really fascinating. Maybe I’ll try another group some time πŸ™‚

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  5. Great summary, Lyndsey. I agree with everything–including the fact that I should dig into social media a bit more!

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    1. lyndleloo says:

      Come over to Twitter and check out the #AuthorToolboxBlogHop hashtag πŸ™‚


  6. I think you covered the gamut. Trying to think of other things. I suppose critique partner forums/opportunities, which often go hand in hand with the opportunities you mentioned.

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    1. lyndleloo says:

      Yes to critique partner forums! I think I need to check a few more of those out πŸ™‚


  7. TD Storm says:

    Great suggestions, Lyndsey. Writing is a social activity: I mean, you can do it in isolation, but you ultimately want readers. So I’ve found that writing always benefits from some kind of social interaction in its creation as well. Online groups of various kinds can be helpful, but I think some kind of face-to-face interaction is imperative. (And I agree with Anna: I’m no extrovert, but I’ve found face-to-face groups relatively easy and essential. In fact, they probably scare me less than social media does.)

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    1. lyndleloo says:

      I absolutely love the idea of writer retreats, and just meeting up with fellow authors at a coffee shop to work on our WIPs – I think I need to make some face-to-face writer friends! I was tempted to check out my local NaNoWriMo write-ins last year, maybe I’ll pop out to one this November and see what it’s all about πŸ™‚


  8. Iola Goulton says:

    I’m definitely the introvert – the idea of a share-your-writing in-person group sends shivers up my spine!


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